Hahaha. I see you’re being down arrowed a bit… But I was thinking the same thing.
Reason I was thinking nixos was because op was talking about " flipping switches" they couldn’t flip back. Nixos has that sorted out.
Plus… It sounds like op isn’t afraid of trying new and possibly difficult things on a new server they’ve acquired
The truth is that proxmox is likely the best option here. But nixos could be a fun ( type2 fun) challenge if they’re into that kind of thing
To add to the idea of using tailscale. I’ve been using tsdproxy for a while now and it’s outrageously easy to set up.
The reason I’ve gone this route is that I feel like it gives me a bit more control over who is in my network and what they can get to.
Each service gets a funny name address and I get to share that specific service with other people who also have tailscale. Then if they get on my nerves or something, I can stop sharing that specific service and they can figure it out on their own.
I use the notes sections in proxmox preeettty heavily. Lots of links to the helper scripts, youtube videos and other resources i used to get er’ goin’.
In the near future I’m really hoping I can set up Netbox to help me document the network and equipment I’m putting in my homelab. a nice thing is that I went through a divorce a while ago and I’m getting to start from scratch. You’d be surprised at just how much you’ve learned since starting to self host and I think there’s this sunk cost fallacy that gets a lot of us to keep going with what we’ve got already set up because we’ve “already put so much work into it” and the concern of what we might lose by scrapping it and starting over.
Also, not what you asked… but if you’re still relatively new with proxmox you should check out the ProxmoxVE helper scripts. Lots of good automated scripts from doing a post-install to setting up various LXC containers and VM’s
It’s very reminiscent of when the Canadian Alliance and the progressive conservatives joined forces to make the CPC.
The whole thing has been a bit of a mess imo… The MLA in my region seems to know his audience though… They just sent me a newsletter talking about seniors resources and I’m not even old enough for a midlife crisis yet 😅